Sometimes people we like are out of our reach, whether they are just the good looking guy or girl who you notice from a distance, the model-esque beauty sitting at a bar – who proceeds to tur
Sometimes people we like are out of our reach, whether they are just the good looking guy or girl who you notice from a distance, the model-esque beauty sitting at a bar – who proceeds to turn around to meet his other half, dammit! However, sometimes it’s the one problem that can end things before they even start—age.
Age is something of a hard subject to tackle. It begs the question of choice, and even legality. For instance, take a young girl, with a guy twice her age, they can get along as nice as pie, have many great laughs, spend time together, but everyone will assume, and it’s the cliché stereotypical view here, that he is using her for one thing because she’s young and more innocent, and don’t even get me started on the fact that because she’s a girl she’s more naïve.
Is it a problem?
It’s all nonsense in respect, whatever happened to choice? A woman or man can choose who they spend time with or who they would like to express feelings for. We cant walk around with our ages on our heads just to clarify everything, if we clarify that do we have to state our preferences in life, whether we want children, believe in marriage, do I go on?
Saying that, it’s easy to see why it would be a problem. You can get along and enjoy each others company so much, and gain so much happiness together, but in reality, everyone looks to the future, for the younger of the relationship they may have more time to think or reach them goals such as children and marriage, but the older may see them sights closer, especially with ten years plus difference.
It’s hard of some people to have to wait for them goals, when some others may only just be starting one part of their life. Having the gap definitely could cause an interesting relationship, you’d both be going through different stages of life and therefore exciting opportunities would arise, however we all have dreams and aspirations and even if its not set in stone, we’d like to think we’d reach them as near to as possible and asking someone to wait or postpone those is asking a lot. Putting someone else’s happiness, goals and life in front of your own is possibly the hardest but best thing to do.
You’re not hurting one another that way you’re accepting a good thing and if you do have feelings for them or find them a lovely person, you can accept the reason for no relations because you’re allowing them to find someone who can provide them with the life that with the gap you would not be able to provide.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having older friends either, it creates a diverse friendship group and someone who may be able to give you advice in parts of your life, that friends of your own age group could not help you with. Friends will always be there to; you can never have too many either!
It truly is a big shame when that gorgeous older guy is just a memory or someone you can’t have, but always remember, you will always find someone one day, and there is never anything wrong with eye candy, and personally, I will always have a soft spot for the older British lovelies that are Hugh Grant and Colin Firth! Nothing wrong with that!
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