sex & relationships

Spicing up your bedroom skills.

sex life
Written by Nigel Simpkins

Are you looking to break out of the stale routine of your sex life? There is an array of things you can implement, so as to add a little bit of flavor to your lovemaking sessions. The most important thing is to keep an open mind and have fun with your partner.

New Positions

Contrary to what you might think, having an arsenal of different sex positions is not just reserved for adult film actors. Other than missionary or doggy style, you can spice up things in the bedroom by suggesting new and exciting positions to your partner. This will not only breath new life into your lovemaking, but it will also bring you closer to your partner by breaking down barriers to intimacy. Look up different positions like the shuttle, mermaid, straddle and more for increased excitement and intimacy in the bedroom.


Toys can be a great way to explore your desires and limits. They come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and applications. You can incorporate sex toys into your playtime with your partner for a more rewarding experience. You may need to discuss what each of you is comfortable with before you embark on the use of toys.

Dildos are the most commonly used toys (it’s important to clean your dildo), but if you’re looking for a little more adventure, a plug is right down your alley. Plugs are made in a variety of designs to suit all of your kinky needs. They are fashioned to be safe and effective. If you are new to plugs, there are training kits available for beginners, so as to ease you into it. A non-threatening aesthetic to the butt plug is also important. Pet play, fetishes are popular with plugs. There are butt plugs with bunny, wolf and fox tails at Using lubrication is mandatory for a comfortable and safe experience.

“Dirty” Talk

The capability of your voice, during lovemaking, should not be underestimated. A lot can be achieved by erotically-stimulated words. Hearing your partner speak in an erotic manner leads to the release of Dopamine, which goes a long way in giving you pleasure during sex. Simple things such as moans, to whispering explicit things into your partner’s ear can do wonders.

Nipple Stimulation

Both males and females have nipples. These regions, carry a large number of nerve endings, which makes them extremely sensitive to touch. Manipulation of this sensitivity, in order to bring pleasure to your partner, will lead to better sexual experiences. This is because you are able to generate pleasure from multiple sources.

Actions such as gently rubbing the nipple with your fingers, soft kissing and soft licking will arouse your partner. Stiffening of the nipples will let you know that the experience is pleasurable.

Self Pleasuring

Self-pleasure is a touchy subject, and a lot of people will not openly admit to engaging in it, despite the health benefits and excitement. Watching your partner pleasure themselves serves as visual stimuli and is guaranteed to turn you on.

Masturbation can also serve as a teaching implement in the case of women. Male partners can learn how to pleasure their female counterparts by watching how they do it.

In the bedroom, an adventurous spirit and open-mindedness are guaranteed to keep the fire of your romance burning strong. Let go of the modesty and allow yourself to explore the depths of your desires with your partner.